Lots of people don’t even know what Asexuality is. What if you couldn’t care less about sex? Most of you often assume everyone experiences sexual attraction, but that’s not the case for people on the asexuality spectrum.
Even in this century, Asexuality remains a mystery to many. Despite making up about 1% of the population, asexual folks are often misunderstood or dismissed. But it’s high time to open your eyes and accept the truth. And the truth is, Asexuality comes in many flavors and is a perfectly normal human variation.
In this article, we aim to lift the veil on what it really means to be asexual. You’ll learn that Asexuality has nothing to do with celibacy or intimacy issues and that asexual people can and do have fulfilling relationships. Today we’ll gain insight into an orientation that is as natural as any other, though frequently erased or stigmatized.
For asexual people, understanding themselves in this hyper-sexualized world can be a journey. It’s time to set the record straight and recognize Asexuality for what it is – simply another way of being human.
What Asexuality Means
Now you may wonder what Asexuality really is. Well, Asexuality simply means having little or no sexual attraction.
Asexuality exists on a spectrum. Some asexuals feel no sexual attraction at all, while others think it rarely or only under specific circumstances. Many asexuals do feel romantic attraction and desire romantic relationships; they just don’t want the sexual component.
Most people get confused between Asexuality and celibacy or abstinence. Well, celibate people choose not to act on their sexual desires, while asexuals lack those desires in the first place.
As you see, Asexuality is also not a choice or the result of a hormonal imbalance. It’s a legitimate sexual orientation, just like being straight or gay.
A Diverse Spectrum: Demisexual to Aromantic
Just like other sexualities, the asexuality spectrum is also diverse, ranging from demisexual to aromantic.
- If we talk about demisexual people, they only feel sexually attracted to someone once a strong emotional connection has formed.
- At the same time, Aromantic individuals can experience little or no romantic attraction to others.
As we know, Asexuality is a spectrum, not a one-size-fits-all identity; some asexual people are open to romantic relationships, while others prefer platonic friendships. In some cases, certain asexual individuals engage in sexual activity to please their partners, even if they feel no personal desire for sex.
Apart from demisexuals and aromantics, there are also gray-asexual people who experience sexual attraction very infrequently, and their orientation fluctuates.
Asexuality can intersect with other orientations like bi or panromantic, where the romantic attraction isn’t limited by gender.
Some common experiences among asexual people include:
- Feeling like an “outsider” for not experiencing attraction like most people
- Difficulty understanding why sex and romance are such a big deal to others
- Navigating relationships where their partner has very different needs and desires
The asexuality spectrum shows that human sexuality is diverse and complex. All the people out there need to understand Asexuality is a legitimate orientation — not a phase or something that needs to be “fixed.”
Asexuality Myths Debunked: No, We Don’t Need to “Find the Right Person”
Do you know what makes normal things undigested? It’s myths and rumors. A popular myth about Asexuality is that asexual people just haven’t found the right person yet. This implies that sexual attraction is inevitable for everyone and that Asexuality isn’t a real orientation. The truth is, Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation for those who experience no sexual attraction.
Asexual people have the right, and they can find romantic partners and have close relationships, but sexual attraction just isn’t a factor for them. Saying they haven’t found “the one” yet dismisses Asexuality as a temporary state rather than an orientation.
Finding a compatible partner may lead to a fulfilling relationship for some, but it won’t suddenly ignite sexual feelings for asexual individuals. Rather than dismissing or pathologizing Asexuality, it’s essential to understand, respect, and support people of all orientations. Asexuality deserves the same legitimacy and respect as any other orientation.
Conclusion
So while Asexuality remains largely misunderstood, the truth is it’s a perfectly normal and natural human experience for many. Asexual people can and do lead full, happy, and meaningful lives.
If you’re asexual and fighting with yourself to understand what’s going on, don’t worry. One day you’ll also fall in love, build strong relationships, and have successful careers. Just follow your passions, and contribute greatly to the world around you.
For all the people who find this a taboo, you don’t need to support Asexuality. Because they don’t need your support, and they are as normal as we all are. Rather educate yourself on Asexuality, learn what it means to be asexual, and understand it is a natural human variation, not a disorder. Respect their orientation and use the terms they prefer, like “asexual” or “ace.”